Comments on: You Can Tell Now That the Sex Bloggers Have Arrived

By: Delilah

Delilah — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 03:25:27 +0000

This is not encouraging a prospective whore blogger much.

I must say, I feel I’ll keep my authenticity over a swollen audience-ship, myself.

All that Fine Arts training. We’ll see if how I feel in a few years…

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links for 2007-11-16 | Flamingo House Happenings — Fri, 16 Nov 2007 00:38:35 +0000

[...] You Can Tell Now That the Sex Bloggers Have Arrived : Sexerati: Smart Sex. This might be why we can’t have nice things, blogosphere, and sex bloggers are no different. We have no greater claim than anyone else to authenticity or transparency just because it’s about sex with us. We feel just as alien and ostracized — more s (tags: sex sexbloggers sexblogging) [...]

By: Being Amber Rhea » Blog Archive » Wait, how does this have anything to do with conforming?

Wed, 14 Nov 2007 22:32:58 +0000

[...] social media community. See Graydancer’s post about his experience at the BlogWorld Expo, and Melissa Gira’s Sexerati post from today. (Why yes, they are both session leaders at Sex 2.0, why do you [...]

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contentious.com - links for 2007-11-14 — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 22:23:59 +0000

[...] You Can Tell Now That the Sex Bloggers Have Arrived : Sexerati: Smart Sex. Behaviors of “New Media Douchebags that we love to hate but still sometimes indulge in ourselves: starting faux-controversies to get traffic, or worse, to build a brand. Who wants to be known as “that blogger who had that big problem with [x]”?” (tags: blogs ethics controversy publicity problems media+evolution culture) [...]

By: Amber

Amber — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 21:42:52 +0000

Well I guess my thing is, I don’t think it’s ever okay to be looked down on,and I don’t think it needs to be a contest of who’s the most oppressed.

By: Melissa Gira

Melissa Gira — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 20:51:09 +0000

We do deserve respect, as much as any other blogger.

What concerns me is when, in the pursuit of being seen as relevant, or having integrity, or building community, what we spend time on isn’t exploring and educating about & entertaining with sex, but what’s being mistaken as blog-biz-as-usual: using these slights as opportunities to build brand and readership, rather than acting with grace.

And with that, I’m turning my attention back to blogging for now. This has been useful, but lest it get too insidery. I think we’ll get into this more at/around Sex 2.0.

But one more thing — the way sex is being changed by the internet, and how it effects people outside the sexblogosphere, is so much bigger and more important than how any of us is treated at a conference. Yes, it’s a drag to be looked down on, but look who’s doing the looking-down-on. Compare that treatment with the stigma we face outside the web scene. How does it, as a million guys in striped shirts have said before me, scale?

By: Amber

Amber — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 20:39:46 +0000

Well, I don’t think it’s necessarily about holding ourselves to the rest of the blogosphere’s standards. For me, anyway, it’s about wanting to be treated with the same baseline of respect as any other random blogger one meets at a conference or event. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to be pissed off when people immediately dismiss anything I say just because I write about sex sometimes.

Blog post coming eventually, I swear! THanks for the ego stroke.

By: Melissa Gira

Melissa Gira — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 18:55:21 +0000

To be blunt, the NMD behavior set is something we’ve all engaged in. Does that make us terrible people? No. Can we do better than to limit ourselves by holding ourselves to the rest of the (white, tech, moneyed) blogosphere’s definitions of greatness? Hells fuck yes.

And not just because we can use bad language.
Looking forward to your post; you always nail issues of community & sex blogging so well!

By: Amber

Amber — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 18:45:05 +0000

I’m a little confused, Melissa. Are you saying Graydancer was being douchey? To me, his post didn’t read like he was expecting a hand-out, or like he felt he was entitled to something. But maybe it’s just because I can relate to that stigmatization, and I’m arguably not even a “sex blogger.” I don’t think pointing out reality makes one douchey.

I should blog about this myself…

By: xav

xav — Tue, 13 Nov 2007 23:40:06 +0000

i’m not seen as an alien.
i talk about sex
i have no problem with that
my friends too
and sometimes it’s really “crude”
sex bloggers exist.
some of them are good
Some of them are just asshole to be polite
if to improve sexual health, internet must must be the media n°1, why not?
why sex is always hide like this?
people show it at TV as a bad-acting-against-society.
With my work i travel a lot
and the only sexual health i can teach is how to use condoms.
I went in some country where 60% of the population had aids, so if internet can improve that i’m okay.
And the civilized-one could continue their small game with boundage and other stuff.
But internet is the futur of sex.
And Sexerati i love reading.
xav